I’m not a judgmental person. I’m the last to throw stones especially about weight and health. I was dangerously morbidly obese when I started this journey in December of 2016. I was over 330 pounds and so unhappy. Now as I shrink I am watching my husband gain dangerous amounts of weight in a short time because he refuses to be active and refuses to eat healthy. I’ve done all I can think of to help him. We just had a huge fight. I can’t watch him kill himself anymore and I don’t want him to be a silent enabler for me either. I want a healthy lifestyle with an active spouse. Why would I do this to myself and not change my life forever like I promised myself. I owe it to myself and I deserve it. I’ve worked my ass off. Literally. Help please you guys are the best group.
U know how far down u have to go before u see it. All u can do is try to support and hope he sees it. I know it’s hard,but how many times did u fail at losing weight before u saw the light and got it right. He is still lost in the not going to happen to me woods.
My gf started right with me once I started my 2 week pre-op diet! She’s been doing great right asking with me! We had so many talks before my surgery so she knew what would be changing in my life. It directly affects her too so to be that much more supportive she’s in it with me! So proud of her. Everything you’ve said to your husband is the right way to do it. But if he doesn’t comply he’s gotta know that you won’t put up with it. Did y’all talk about this stuff before your surgery too?
I can understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately, I can’t force my husband to be healthy. I don’t buy the junk for him either. But my husband has health issues. He has chronic pain that makes simple movements excruciating. When he asked me to bring home fast food the other night, I was grocery shopping, I told him there is taco meat in the fridge. I won’t enable him. It is so hard to stand by and wait for him to make the choice, but it’s his to make. Forcing anything on another will only cause resentment.